I May Be Complicated, But I'm Simply Anne


21. Senior at Marshall University. Ready to initiate Operation GTFO and get out of this shit hole. I'm just a girl with a big heart, high expectations, and a severe shopping fetish.

I have no shame; ask me anything.

5th January 2012

mitzi-may: disgustinghuman: delacroix: Me too. And, more than that, I’m sick of the people using it. Women are told almost constantly—by the media, the government, and the overall attitude of society—that our bodies don’t fucking belong to us. The mythical friendzone is just another way for misogynists to enforce that idea while getting to play the victim. It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection. But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from. And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy. dat commentary Every single person on tumblr needs to read this.

mitzi-may:

disgustinghuman:

delacroix:

Me too. And, more than that, I’m sick of the people using it.

Women are told almost constantly—by the media, the government, and the overall attitude of society—that our bodies don’t fucking belong to us. The mythical friendzone is just another way for misogynists to enforce that idea while getting to play the victim.

It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.

But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.

And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.

dat commentary

Every single person on tumblr needs to read this.

Source: lolsnaps.com

  1. inurashii reblogged this from team-ketchup and added:
    Ok, real talk. I don’t think any of the numerous people who are agreeing with the essay that you said ‘fuck you’ to...
  2. maryanfirpo reblogged this from rpatzel and added:
    My pig problem with this whole thread is that the women who are talking down the friend zone think every man is out to...
  3. rpatzel reblogged this from mylittlepig and added:
    Being nice is just ONE thing said person wants. Attraction for them might rely on a much greater range of things than...
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  5. team-ketchup reblogged this from mylittlepig and added:
    I’m not saying you aren’t entitled to say “no” to whomever you please. I only assert that the friendzone exists.
  6. mylittlepig reblogged this from team-ketchup and added:
    Nice guys are turned down when they ask girls out, but so are jackasses. Just because you’re a nice guy does not mean...
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    I’m not talking about not raping a girl. I’m talking about not taking advantage of her emotional vulnerability. This...
  9. inurashii reblogged this from team-ketchup and added:
    Yes! So true! After you go through all that for a woman. Repeatedly not raping her even though you totally could have a...
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    Reblogging for the excellent commentary!
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    I agree with all of this and add: If he is shaming you because you don’t put out for him because he BOUGHT YOU DINNER...
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    hallejulia. (spelling error, I know.)
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